In our quest for happiness we must be sure that we don’t settle for a Playmate when God has a Soulmate waiting for us.
Sometimes this is a hard distinction to make.
Playmates are tricky.
They are so much fun to be withthat even the smartest of us will be fooled into thinking this has to be our Soul mate. Worse yet too many of us attempt to make a Soul mate out of a Playmate.
The danger of this is that later, after years of playing we will meet our Soul mate, but it may be too late. We may have already made a Life mate of our Playmate and created life-long bonds (emotional, children, etc.).
Or we may have been hurt from playing so hard that we are in no shapeourselves to be anyone’s anything. How can we distinguish between the One, and just another one?
First, we must be open with ourselves about who we really are and whatour soul yearns for.
Only you and God know what is truly in your heart and mind. Only you know what will make you truly happy and whole. In order to find your Soul mate you have to know you, first.
You must be willing to listen to that inner voice. And is that voice telling you that the nerdy person you enjoy talking and sharing your thoughts with, could be him or her?
What about that friend who is always willing to go the extra mile for you when noone else will. He’s too short or too tall, balding or too hairy, and on and on? Just too ordinary looking for me!
Then there’s that girl who makes you feel so special when you’re around her,but she doesn’t match that ideal you have conjured in your head. She’s too tall, not slender enough, not light or dark enough, not shapely enough, not attractive enough, and on and on. Is he or she going to treat you like the jewel that you are?
But don’t spend too much time playing or you may play your life away. Eventually the playing loses it appeal and your soul begins to crave a deeper, more meaningful connection. Your soul begins to crave your Soulmate.
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.